Infidelity - Forgive or Forget (them)?

Infidelity, I don’t get it. It’s like 3D televisions; you think it’s going to be exciting and new, but we all know that it’s just attractive bullshit that’s just going to disappoint you in the end. So why do people do it? Well various reasons really, some more serious and genuine than others, but the end result is the same. You betrayed someone who trusted you. There’s no getting around it: you can sugar coat it all the fuck you want: doesn’t matter, you still pissed all over someone’s heart.

Mind you, it depends on what your definition of cheating is. Some people think that the insertion of genitalia into another person is cheating, whereas others consider kissing cheating. The list goes on… However as far as I’m concerned any sexual contact, kissing and/or actual sex (oral and penetrative) is cheating. Notice I didn’t say flirting there because let’s face it, everybody flirts and most of the time it’s harmless, (so long as there is no intention to act upon it) it’s fine. This is the definition I think most people will agree on.

I’m a romantic and I believe in love, trust and loyalty. So as far as I’m concerned infidelity should not be forgiven. Unless of course the cheater in question comes out about it on their own, feeling genuinely awful about that they’ve done and sincerely promising that they are going to change their ways. Then the cheated can think about forgiving them. Yeah think about it. Don’t just fucking forgive them, they cheated on you. It’s the ultimate betrayal of trust, so you need to think damn hard about whether or not you can a) Trust this person again b) Are sure they’ll never do it again. Mind you, even then I’d be more inclined to tell them to jog the fuck on.

Infidelity is very fucking serious and should not be easily forgiven

”But I felt trapped! They weren’t fulfilling my needs! They don’t listen to me/make me feel wanted/suck me off/lick me out!” - Not fucking good enough. That’s why you fucking talk about it or break it off. It’s that simple and anyone who says otherwise is a fucking coward.

Yeah you heard me coward. Because that’s what it is - cowardice. You’re afraid to speak to them/dump them/confront the situation and that’s cowardice. Running into the arms of another person is not noble, nor does it solve the problem and don’t give me that “but I still want her/him” bullshit. Really? Then why are you going behind their back to fondle someone else?! Sort yourself out: you have no right to be with someone until you know what you really want.

This is why people like Ashley Cole and Wayne Rooney (and many more) piss me off. Having more money than most people does not give you the right to fuck around and get away with it. Are they really sorry? Or are they sorry they got caught? Oh and don’t get me started on their fucking other halves, “I’m taking him back because of the baby/children.” Fuck sake. Go out, make your own fucking money (I’m sure they have more than enough) and raise them yourself. Besides not all children without dads grow up “different” (that really annoys me – do they think the kids will grow up to be rapists or serial killers or something?! Just because they didn’t have a dad?)

Wounds can be tended, limbs can be mended but a broken heart is hard to heal

Besides I want my kids to understand the meaning of trust and commitment, and being with someone who hasn’t upheld those values doesn’t send a good message across now does it? Plus it also says “doormat”.

So if you’ve had wandering thoughts and/or unhappy with your partner then talk to them about it - do the honourable thing. Because chances are they care about you and do you really want to hurt someone who cares about you? No I’m guessing not. However if you have tried to work things out and it doesn’t seem to be working then maybe it’s time to let go. I know it’s scary and maybe you have commitments (kids, mortgage, whatever); but trust me these things have a way of sorting themselves out, and the person who’ve been cheating on deserves to know.